Why be a hero when you can be a zero

Wow, it's been a long time since I've posted. Life kinda got in the way over the summer, and I became distracted with holidays and things. Likewise, I also renewed my interest in some of my hobbies and spent some enjoyable time with them.

My journey towards marital separation and divorce is crawling along at a snails pace. My lawyer has received absolutely no communications from my wife's lawyer since I was served months ago. I'm stuck waiting for something to happen on her end unless I serve her. I did research the idea of moving out of the house, but I found that I would have to continue to pay for the mortgage and household expenses, plus pay for rent, etc for wherever I would be living. I really don't want to be in that limbo indefinitely, so at home I stay. An ugly necessity, unfortunately.

Life has been relatively stable until several days ago when things blew up rather dramatically over God knows what. According to wife, I'm lazy, useless, a control freak, a poor parent, a very poor husband and a host of other things. Ouch! She demanded I leave immediately, as my staying in the house caused too much tension for the children. You can imagine the reaction I got when I suggested she leave instead. I also asked her to talk to the kids and see if they really wanted me to leave. She informed me that it was to late to ask the kids, as they had already been brainwashed by me. Cool...

To make a long story short, eventually my mother-in-law got in on the whole thing, demanding me to leave, as that was the best thing for the kids, blah, blah, blah. It was a truly sad and absurd evening. The poor kids, in the meantime, had to listen to the tirades once again. I certainly don't need to brainwash my kids against their mother. She (and her mother) are doing a top notch job already. Unbelievable.

I've communicated all of the above to my lawyer, but there's not much which can be done until her lawyer gets off his ass and starts communicating. We do have a date in Family Court coming up quickly (Oct. 2), so that will definitely stir things up. Boy, will I be glad when this mess is over!